You’ve probably worked so hard to make things better — reading, learning, setting boundaries, trying to stay calm, trying to be fair. But it still feels like nothing works. Or it keeps getting worse. Maybe you know things aren’t right… but you’re not sure if it’s abuse. Maybe he says you’re too sensitive. Or difficult. Or that you’re the one causing all the conflict. Maybe you’re starting to believe him. That place — of knowing something is wrong but not knowing why it hurts so much — is one of the most confusing and isolating places to be. Especially when you’re parenting with someone who flips between charming and cruel, or makes everything feel like your fault. This quiz will help you see things more clearly. It’s not a diagnosis — it’s a starting point. A place to put words to what you’ve been feeling in your body for a long time.